When you remember how at the end of the day this world is very unserious, you couldn’t give less of a fuck about how other people choose to live their life. Someone has a beige themed apartment? Who cares? Someone only writes listicles? Not my problem.
I can say this because you’ll never see me on here outright shading other people, even in my writing, for how they choose to express themselves—that shit is very lame to me. If I have, that was very lame of me. But I think I always leave room for nuance on every perspective I have because I usually see the other side to things and often include myself in societal critiques.
My biggest issue with social media is that there is an overall lack of nuance with pretty much everything being talked about because it’s so many passionate people online that believe that their opinion is the holy grail of opinions, even if they are boldly contradicting themselves with every stance they take.
If you think critically enough, you can almost always understand where someone is coming from or what led them to something because as humans we’re all living quite complex lives. This includes their visual presentation.
I’m a huge fan of individuality. I even get annoyed when I feel as if someone I’ve been around is taking on my personality, interests, or ideas and marketing it as their own. That’s natural. But if I were to publicly condemn women who follow trends—like blueberry milk nails, for example—I would be a huge hypocrite because as a woman who believe all women should be able to exist in a harmless way however they see fit, it simply would be weird for me to shame them for doing just that.
Personal experiences is another example. Why are the women who choose to talk about the trauma they’ve experienced getting shamed for it? We all know men will do it anyway, but when I see other women do it I can’t help but wonder if it’s some form a social pick me-ism that shadows our thinking.
Hey, you can consider this whole post one big contradiction, but I think it needs to be said because I feel this is in defense of anyone who shares content online. Social media has become insufferable in so many ways thanks to dogpiling, sheep mentality, and everyone’s incessant need to shame other people who don’t present themselves or their perspectives in a way they can relate to.
Substack is already inching closer towards this. We can claim this isn’t real life but this mentality has spilled over into real life. The conversations I’ve been subjected to about celebrities’ moral compass has always left me internally baffled.
I know deep down that my thoughts would never be palatable for the digestion of these digital communities because of how black and white most tend to think. Not because of a fear of social rejection but because if you don’t conform, people will go out of their way to silence you.
In the last few months I’ve become a bit cynical but I’m reminded that I still encompass a level of compassion that has been lost in many due to online influences. I’d much rather pay people to run my socials so there is some consistent presence while I focus on creating on the back end. That would be worth every penny, in my opinion.
I’m fully aware that this is something I don’t have the luxury to do away with completely. I’m also aware that thanks to social media we have access to more opportunity and community, so obviously it’s not the worst thing to ever happen.
This year I may have reached the end of a toxic cycle on just about everything in my life. But I’ll continue to do my best to create a safe space for people to express parts of themselves without judgement and divisiveness.
The funny part about this spontaneous post is that no one offended personally, I just saw it happening to others. Very libra of me.
I go deeper into society’s gullibility and other topics in pervious posts. If you’re a subscriber, I appreciate you! If you’re not and find yourself reading my posts, ask yourself why is that.
"If you think critically enough" see, and that's the problem I've been thinking about and finding too; no one thinks anymore 😩. Nuance and discernment are dead concepts at this point. I swear it has something to do with the fast paced and easy nature of social media and the lack of reading, writing, and challenging one's mind in society rn, but I haven't thought that out enough yet. Definitely will be writing about it soon enough though 🫠
Preach my girl! Preach!